My husband passed away in November 2005 at the age of 34 from squamous cell carcinoma, he had tongue cancer. What annoyed me more than anything is that his dentist excused a tumor (it looked like an ulcer) on his tongue, not one time but twice. We then heard from a local ENT that he also had a patient with tongue cancer and she got it cut out and is leading a mostly, normal life. When the ENT went in for surgery, he couldnt continue and said it had spread and was beyond his expertise and sent us to U of P, with supposedly the best surgeon there. That was the year from hell. It started with a huge reconstructive surgery where they cut out almost half of Greg's tongue and reconstructed it with an artery from his leg. He had over 30 lymph nodes taken from his neck which never healed properly and the smell from it being infected was worse than anything I ever remember. Post surgery took forever to heal and he had to do radiation and chemo after he healed. He also had a trach put in for a month or so after surgery and a feeding tube in his stomach because it would be hard to eat for a while...or basically for the rest of his short life. He lived 9 months after his surgery. There are times I kick myself hard for allowing the doctors to cut him to pieces. A few other I have heard of, opted not to have surgery and they did radiation which seemed to shrink the tumor. Although, they might have discomfort and some difficulty swallowing, they are still alive today. Please know all your options. Ask around and see what others have done before you. I needed to tell my story and vent. I know people are scared and I'll say a prayer for all of you. God bless.
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Thank you very much.I am a strong person even in pain but my worse pain was my children dieing and I made it though that. I can do anything.If I die from this I will see them again.So I thought I had a choose to be with them or live and be healthy so I didn't stress over it .I felt I would be blessed either way.Stress will kill you and think that help me through it.
The pain I still go through will be the rest of my life but at 67 I am not scared to die losing my kids was the hardest thing I ever went thogh they were 18 and 24 this has been a breeze compared to that but the pain is very bad..I choose to live a little longer.I have had a good life and don't regret anything I have done in the past that is just living every day is a blessing if I don't wake up it is okay. I have aplan if I start to be sick and that's my life .I do believe in doing what I want to do it is my choose how I want to go it is no bodies business how I go.
I am sorry you lost him but you know h loved you and thats a blessing and I am tired of the surgery and all the other things too..I want to go peacefully .And by my way;At 67 I did a lot growing up maybe to much .People say I should write a book so I don't have a bucket list I have traveled every where and did things people never heard of so I feel blessed.When it is my time I have no chose . I will be ready. God bless you it is a waste .No more for me either.
WILL NOT DO ANY MORE.They can't find it is in so it is me to decied the way I want go.
I'm getting better ever day. Soon as I get my back problem fixed I'm going to travel some it's just that old artherits. I wish they would find a cure instead of cutting and radiating people to bits. I'll pray for u. Sometimes I get excited knowing I will see my loved ones again.
You are strong to make that choice.knowing what I know I don't know that I would go through that. Nope
I have it too. I have had 4 shot's still hurts.I am going to spend all my money traveling if somthing goes wrong with me.My kids have more money than me.It would be my luck they give me six months and I lived for 2 and be homeless(: