I'm new here. Hope I can find my way back! My husband [...]

I'm new here. Hope I can find my way back! My husband was diagnosed at Roswell last week for cancer of the larynx. He had cancer of the tonsils before but this new cancer is considered a primary and not a spread from the previous. He has had radiation before and that apparently isn't an option and the doctor suggested surgery. However, it must be a long and difficult surgery and just not sure my husband is strong enough at this point. He has lost about 70 pounds in last couple years. I would like to know what to expect. I'm scared. More immediately, I was wondering if there was anything anyone can suggest to help with his terrible cough? And he has so much trouble eating and drinking. I'm so afraid he is going to choke and I have no idea what to do. He has tremendous pain in his throat from the coughing. I would be thankful for any and all input.